Help with this weeks top 3 concerns for parents

1. Home schooling

Parents are reporting concerns in balancing school work and work commitments and that’s if they are lucky enough to get their child interested in any school work at all.

Parent first

Remember you are your child’s parent not teacher so take the pressure off yourself and aim to encourage your child to work on different areas for at least half an hour and up to 2 hours a day.

Your child may go to school for 6 hours a day but that day is made up of 29 other children for each teacher all needing their needs met, eating, play time and moving about the school and getting settled. Quality over quantity is much more important.

2. Behaviours

Conflict and communication and understanding instruction and emotional need will be even more difficult at this time for all ages and members of the family. Communicating with each other positively is even more important when spending more time together in close contact and sharing a small space.

Dependent on your child’s stage of development their reaction to change will differ. This will also apply to adults. Not all adults communicate effectively and have the right amount of emotional control for lockdown situations either. Understanding what others are capable of and what stage of behaviour and emotional regulation development they are will help.

Theory of mind

Theory of mind refers to the ability to understand the mental states of others and to recognize that those mental states may differ from our own.

Theory of mind plays an important role in solving conflicts and developing social skills.

Children typically develop an understanding of theory of mind around age 4, although some research suggests it may start developing even earlier.

At Wriggles and Giggles Sessions we repeat activities that will help with all stages of development from birth to 5 years We also help with ideas to take home and parenting tips and techniques. To join a group in Yarm, Darlington, Hartburn, Ingleby Barwick, Newton Aycliffe send us an email

Some studies have shown that individuals with autism may have more difficulty than others answering theory of mind questions correctly. These findings might explain why people with autism sometimes find certain social situations confusing.

Psychologists often assess a child's developing theory of mind by performing the false beliefs task. In the most common version of this task, the researcher will ask the child to observe two puppets: Sally and Anne. The first puppet, Sally, places a marble in a basket, then leaves the room. When Sally is gone, the second puppet, Anne, moves Sally’s marble from the basket to a box.

The researcher then asks the child, "Where will Sally look for her marble when she comes back?"

A child with a robust theory of mind will respond that Sally will look for her marble in the basket. Even though the child knows the basket is not the actual location of the marble, the child is aware that Sally does not know this, and consequently understands that Sally will look for her marble in its former location.

Children without fully developed theories of mind may respond that Sally will look in the box. This response suggests that the child is not yet able to recognize the difference between what he or she knows and what Sally knows.

Changing the way you communicate and understanding others is the most positive way to deal with conflict within the home for all family members. Try to see the world the way they see it and think it and adjusting your communication and response to them will help.

Be aware of your child and other adult’s triggers that may cause emotional outbursts or a bad time to communicate effectively with others. Consider the word HALTS.